Desire vs. Fear

When desire overcomes fear, individuals and communities can accomplish great things. This is no different in the Leather community. Many times people stand by and watch what we do, they are fascinated with it and intrigued. Yeah, sometimes folks are disgusted with it, but after awhile, their interest outweighs that.

    There are many times where someone will experience a little bit of our life and after awhile they want more. They fantasize about it and that helps to push those desires. That desire builds and builds and eventually they overcome their fear  and they seek us out to quench those desires.

    Now there is nothing wrong with that. Many of us went through that when we were just beginning to experiment with our sexuality. Many also experience that in just the fact of going to the bar or to MCC. I’ve heard many stories where people would for weeks on end drive by or round the building before they would finally get the courage to come in.

    It’s no different with kinky sex. They first are totally afraid of us; they avoid us, but pretty soon you see them on the edge of the conversation listening. They start asking questions. Then finally they approach one of us. Then it’s back to the shadows until the desire comes to the surface again.

    I’ve known people who have done this for years. It just takes some time to accept that this is what you want; this is what you desire and it’s what turns you on.

    So if you have any type of kinky desires or questions, please do not hesitate to ask someone about them. Just make sure it’s someone who has been around and it’s someone you can trust.

    I am more than willing to help anyone embrace their kinkiness. I know the pure satisfaction that it can bring. I’ve never been more at peace with myself than when I finally came into this lifestyle.

    If you have questions or just want to know more, please come to any WOOLF meeting. Come experience the wild side of life! l

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Marcia McCoy, Ph.D.

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