Editor’s note: This column may contain content that is offensive to some people.
I’m a proud gay man. I’m also a proud kinky man. Everyone should be proud of who they are, gay, straight and everything in between. But also if you’re kinky, you should be proud of that too.
Many people look at us kinky folks and think we are bizarre and weird. Well we are not any more bizarre or weird than the next person. Every individual is wired differently and this is what causes them to be different from anyone else. And this is exciting! Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was exactly the same? Boring!! And yet there are folks out there who want all of us to be the same, to think the same, to act the same. Well, that’s a great fantasy because it’s just that, a fantasy.
Just as no two people have the same fingerprints, no two people are wired the same sexually. Each of us has different likes and kinks. And all of this is what makes the world go round. These differences are what makes sex between individuals so fun and exciting. It’s a fun and great adventure to find out the sexual desires of another individual.
And that’s what we do in the Leather and BDSM communities. We help people to explore and experience various different things so they can figure out exactly what turns them on. Because when you are turned on sexually, the sex between the individuals is so much more amazing!
Almost everyone, if not everyone, has a fetish. Some are sexual in nature, some are not. A fetish is anything that gets you excited. And many people have fantasies about those fetishes. So when are you going to embrace those fantasies and fetishes and nourish the desire that is deep within you?
Well, that’s kind of what happened 47 years ago in a bar in New York. Those people finally said enough is enough and they took to the streets and brought about a revolution of gay rights. However, the fight is not done. You know those kinky desires you have? Well, we still don’t have full rights to express and live those desires. We have made huge strides, but there is still more to do. Many of our brothers and sisters still can’t live openly about their kinky desire. We are just now starting to discuss and embrace those who are born one sex, but are actually another sex inside. These people are still unable to live their lives as the feel they are inside.
There is so much more to be done in the fight for full and totally equal rights; including women’s rights, gay rights, lesbian rights, bisexual rights, and trans rights. We haven’t even scratched the surface about fetish rights, poly rights, and submissive rights. Each of us needs to help in whatever way possible to further the fight for full and total equal rights!
So whoever you are, be proud. Be proud of who you are. Because you are one of a kind and THAT is something to be very proud of!! l